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Is he a loser or a lover? What his books reveal

You can learn a ton about a person by collection of books. What does your date’s reading far reveal about him?

Personal libraries reflect intellectual interests, literary learnings, religious and political dispositions and a sense of self. Even the way the publications are stacked tells a story about a personality.

If he has a combination of fiction and non-fiction books…
Readers of fictional books tend to claim that that there is more truth, beauty, and understanding about the world and human psyche can be derived from make-beliefs. Those who are fans of non-fiction feel that learning through stories cannot be compared to the straigh-forwardness of plain fact and details. It’s fair to say that both are right to some extent. What matters is what you believe.

If he’s collected a number of book by the same poet or author..
It shows premeditated purchasing and a prefence for a certain style of writing - this is also a hint of a seasoned reader.

If he has a room full of books..
Don’t be intimidated by a room full of books, floor to ceiling. Anyone can snatch trunk with poorly written paperbacks from a garage sale and call it a library. Even though he boasts that besides he has books as one of his biggest collections, operative word, quality over quantity

If his books have doodles or written comments..
This can mean a few things, It’s possible your date may have bought second-hand books (which bodes well for the environmentally friendly and money conscious out there) or perhaps, your guy used his books as a form of note-taking while at school (sacrilege or academically thorough?) If all volumes have bookmarks in them and appear unfinished, you may wonder about his ability to follow through.

If he has coffee table books..
These kind of books often come us gifts. A coffee table book purchased by your lover has a purpose: to suggest to guests that he has a fascinating hobbyor interest he wants you to know about.

If he has reference books..
You name it, thesaurus, dictionary, atlas, style guide, how-to books - there’s no any way that this is a negative sign. It’s safe to assume that the more reference books someone has, the more interested they are in language, writing, reading and learning.

Not trying to label anyone here, but it will not hurt to see for signs, right? In this day and age, it is rare to find a guy who is stimulating in ALL areas.

A guide to raising your folks

Just came across this new book by Sarah O’ Leary Birmingham called, How to Raise your Parents. First reaction, why only let this out NOW?

I had my own issues with my mom and dad when I was in my teen years. It’s like opposites attracting each other to argue. They wanted me to go to an all-girls school but I went to co-ed. Wanted me to become a doctor but I hate the smells of hospitals. Aspired me to become a biology professor but I had hard time dissecting a frog. They wanted me to date their bestfriend’s son who was a pastor but I wanted to become a law enforcer and a car racer at the same time. I have nothing against ministers or pastors but I look at them reverently and can’t imagine being interested to the person who I see every Sunday at church and making sermons that almost always describes how I live.

So, this book talks about the good and bad things about being a teenager. Now,we all know that already. The book also asked if parents should have instructional manuals before having kids. Like a series that will go through even when their children reaches college. I say this book isn’t up for a New York Times Bestseller spot, but then, worthy to be considered by those who have and will and plan to be parents.